Who Said…

We are often told to turn the other cheek and take the high road. We are told that this is the mature thing to do—the “adult” thing to do.

This idea has been presented in different forms.

You can turn the other cheek and take the hit without responding.

You can alchemize the energy—taking what was sent toward you and transforming it into something positive.

Or there is a third option, which is what I am speaking about today:

You can return it to sender.

Let me be clear about what I mean.

I am referring to energy attacks, displacement, projection, jealousy, evil eye, ill intentions, and the negativity people attempt to place onto others.

I am not telling anyone to retaliate, seek revenge, cause harm, or physically attack another person.

Returning energy to its sender means refusing to accept ownership of something that never belonged to you.

At a certain point, it becomes foolish to believe the person attacking you will not recognize your pattern.

They see you taking the hit.

They see you choosing peace.

They see you transforming what they send instead of returning it.

Sometimes, instead of respecting your restraint, they begin to depend on it. They assume they can continue projecting their anger, insecurity, jealousy, and unresolved pain onto you because they believe you will keep absorbing it.

That is why discernment is absolutely necessary.

There are times when energy should be alchemized. Sometimes taking the high road protects your peace and prevents you from being pulled into something beneath you.

There are also times when the hit does not need to be returned at all. Some things deserve no reaction, attention, or access to your energy.

But that is not what I am speaking about here.

I am speaking about situations where repeatedly absorbing and alchemizing the energy only makes the attacks worse.

The person becomes more comfortable and more aggressive. They mistake your self-control for weakness and your silence for permission.

Now I am going to remove the veil and be transparent about the reason behind this blog.

I have been dealing with a person in my workplace who refuses to stop sending negative energy toward me—evil eye, projection, and repeated energetic attacks.

I have tried to ignore it.

I have tried to alchemize the energy.

I have examined and managed my own feelings to make sure I was not reacting from anger, pride, or insecurity.

Despite my attempts to remain peaceful and focused on myself, the attacks continued.

That experience forced me to ask a difficult question:

At what point does constantly absorbing and transforming someone else’s negative energy stop being spiritual maturity—and start becoming permission?

After many months of meditation and prayer, I was finally given an answer:

Return the energy to its sender.

The time for alchemizing the energy and continually turning the other cheek in this particular situation was over.

Why?

Because this is bully-type energy.

It interprets patience as weakness, restraint as fear, and silence as permission. Continuing to respond the same way was no longer creating peace. It was creating space for the behavior to continue.

Turning the other cheek had served its purpose.

Alchemizing the energy had served its purpose.

As a side note, I was also given permission to let them experience a small taste of their own medicine—not from arrogance, revenge, or the desire to cause harm, but to make the boundary clear.

Sometimes people do not understand the weight of the energy they send until they are forced to feel its reflection.

This experience reminded me that balance matters.

To live in the light, I must acknowledge and balance my darkness.

To operate from darkness, you must still possess enough light to recognize what your actions are creating.

Light without darkness can become passive and unprotected.

Darkness without light can become destructive and uncontrolled.

True balance is having access to both while possessing the discernment to know which one the moment requires.

Returning energy to its sender is not revenge.

It is a boundary.

It is saying:

This anger is not mine.

This insecurity is not mine.

This jealousy is not mine.

This confusion is not mine.

This burden belongs to the person who created it, and I refuse to carry it for them.

You do not have to hate the sender, chase them, confront them, or become consumed with watching what happens next.

You simply refuse delivery.

Sometimes peace means transforming what was sent to you.

Sometimes peace means ignoring it completely.

And sometimes peace means calmly returning it to its rightful owner.

Discernment is knowing which response the moment requires.

I’d love to know what you think though.

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Discernment and judgment go hand in hand. If you are learning how to recognize what must be released, what must be transformed, and what must finally be confronted, read my deeper reflection on Judgment next.

The original Judgment painting is also available for purchase. If its message belongs in your space—not simply as decoration, but as a reminder to answer the call when discernment speaks—email me for purchase details.

kinfolkwellin@gmail.com

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My name is Kinfolk Wellin’ and I thank your for your time and support.

Oh yeah, who loves you baby!?